Are you a judger or a learner? You probably have both tendencies in you; however the more you can cultivate the learner in you, the more resilient you will become.
I cam across this chart from EL Education that has characteristics for both judgers and learners. I found this helpful as I thought about how I show up. I especially like the section on how we look to build relationships.
After going through the lists here and reflecting on how you show up, ask yourself that opening question again: are you a judger or a Learner? What can you do today to foster your learner mindset?